Why You’re Nervous Talking About The Thing You Love On-Camera
One of the biggest problems we face as entrepreneurs when we’re creating video content is that the nervousness STILL overwhelms us even when we are talking about something that we’re very passionate about and we absolutely love.
But, Why is That?
Well, the answer is pretty simple once you understand the science of how we process reality as human beings.
The reason why you know you’re alive and reading this blog post right now is simply because you are processing your reality through your 5 senses. Which are:
Disclaimer: even if you have a deficiency in one of your senses, you will still be able to accurately perceive reality just like someone who doesn’t have a deficiency in any of their senses.
And because you can see, hear, feel, smell and taste where you are, you will believe that you are alive and living your life in a reality created by the inputs your 5 senses are receiving from the real world.
But what if we were to stimulate your 5 senses with fake inputs (that aren’t from the real world)?
This might sound mad science fiction, but we ACTUALLY do this very often, we do this when we are dreaming.
In a dream, all of our 5 senses are being controlled by things that are not real, but yet they feel incredibly real.
Let’s Examine If This is Bullshit
Let’s look at the movie Inception (2010) where the characters entered into a dream and they could control what happens.
In that moment during the dream, their senses were being controlled by that dream, and thus, the dream felt “real”. They could not distinguished if they were dreaming or awake.
Below, are two images of what’s happening in the real world vs what he is experiencing in the dream world.
Joseph Gordon-Levitt sleeping in the real world (image above)
While simultaneously fighting in a dream (image above)
And I know you have also experienced this, where you are dreaming and the dream itself feels so real that you convinced yourself that you were NOT dreaming!
Some of you who are reading this may have had the type of dream where you really want to piss, and thinking you were awake and not dreaming, you went number 2, only to wake up to learn that you have wet the bed.
And don’t worry, I am not judging.
What’s My BIG Point?
We process our reality through our five senses
Granted, at times some of our senses will be more heightened than some.
It is vitally important that for something to become REAL to us, that thing MUST stimulate our senses.
What Does This Mean?
When we are talking on-camera, our senses are not stimulated by our audiences.
Thus, our brain can’t perceive who we are talking to because we cannot see them, smell them, taste them, hear them or touch them.
I’ll let Dwayne The Rock Johnson explain it to you.
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And that’s a pretty straightforward concept to understand
And because of this, our brain knows we are not actually talking to people all across the world, but in reality, we are talking to ourselves in a room alone.
And The Sad Part is, This is Only The First Half Of The Problem
The second half of the problem is when our brain LOGICALLY realizes that people will be able to see the video of us talking to ourselves.
In this moment, our brain believes that we are about to commit social suicide since it is socially considered CRAZY to be talking to yourself.
And if people are going to see this video of us talking to ourselves then our brain thinks we need to run away from making that video because it (our brain) does not want us to commit social suicide.
Because survival is our strongest instinct, even social survival!
This is Why You Will Feel Nervous
When you are on-camera, your brain will push you into fight or flight mode, because your brain wants you to run away to save yourself!
This is also why you will talk in circles, go blank, and sometimes contradict yourself because it is difficult to focus when your brain wants you to focus your energy on running away.
You Need To Understand
I want you to understand that there is nothing wrong with you, it is natural to experience this because your brain is functioning the way it should, i.e, it is trying to keep you safe.
Granted of course, since we are living in 2018 and not 10,018 BC, this survival reflex of our brain isn’t helping us to sell more on social media.
A Temporary Solution
The only way to fix this problem is to first recognize the source of the problem, and then tame our brain into understanding that we are in a safe environment.
One Quick Way to do this, is to imagine the lens of the camera as the eye of somebody you really trust and care about. That way, you will start to engage your five senses, which means your brain will start to treat the camera like a real person and this will allow you to relax.
What’s The Big Summary?
It does NOT matter if you are overly passionate and love what you do, it is incredible difficult to let that energy project on-camera when your brain is constantly trying to get you to runaway from the camera.
This is an uphill battle every time because your emotions (of wanting to runaway) are too strong for you to try and overpower with your will-power.