“Fake it Until You Make it” isn’t Fooling Anyone!
We’ve all heard the “fake it until you make it” encouragement talk, which I think it should be rephrased to, “fake it until no one anymore notices that you’re faking”. Because, at that point your audience would have come to the conclusion and accept that superficiality is just a part of your personality.
Nothing healthy ever comes from pretending to be someone you’re not and pretending to be someone you’re not in front of a camera is double trouble since you’ll get NO REAL TIME response from the person looking at you (as oppose to talking to them in person). So, now you have to carry on with your video assuming that what you’re saying is making sense to your audience while pretending to be someone you’re not. WOW! Talk about headache within a headache!
Problem #1 – Your audience knows
I think most people overlook the fact that other people can instantly tell when someone is being genuine and when they’re not, usually the audience will feel something weird in their “gut”, and think something along the line, “I don’t know what it is, but something about this person feels off”.
And what’s worse is that you won’t feel great about it because down in your core you’re going to have your own doubts and insecurities pop up out of no where, “Uhh! I feel like an impostor”.
Problem #2 – It feels wrong
Talking to a camera is beyond stressful as it is because it’s not a real person, it’s not going to give you emotional feedback, in fact, it’ll give you no feedback whatsoever. Most of the time it feels like you’re talking to a brick wall, or like you’re talking to an emotionally stone cold ex who is hell bend on living as though you don’t exist (I’m sure we’ve all been there).
And here’s the thing, when something feels wrong your body language is going to reflect how you feel on the inside, which will click here lead back to problem #1
Here’s a Quick Fix
One of the easiest ways to start talking to camera as though you are talking to a real person is to imagine that you are actually talking to a real person, and I know that sounds mental/insane.
I want you to realize right now how much life and energy you feel when you are talking to someone you like, someone you’re comfortable and who listens to you, and hangs on to every word you say. That’s the kind of person you want to imagine you are talking to, it could be your partner or an old friend.
Follow the steps:
- Make sure the person you are imagining is someone you are comfortable talking to in real life (this is key).
- Imagine that this person is smiling at you and nodding at what you’re saying.
- Imagine that they are utterly engaged with what you’re saying.
- Imagine that they will not try to interrupt you when you are speaking and they’ve given you permission to speak as much as you want.
The Secret to this Technique
The secret to making this technique work is to imagine the lens of the camera as one of the eye of the person, this way you’ll be focused on your audience and the sincerity will come across.
The Secret to this Technique: is to imagine the lens of the camera as one of the eye of the person, this way you’ll be focused on your audience and the sincerity will come across.
The important thing here to remember is that you must be 100% comfortable with the person you are imagining or else your body language will give off the wrong signals.
So the next time you turn the camera on, try not to the camera but instead see someone who you are 100% comfortable looking at you, waiting for you to inspire them with your words.